Why I love counselling
Dedicated time with no disruptions .
I get to talk to someone who is trained to not
reply with a personal projection.
It can be comforting, particularly in times of acute trauma.
I have seen major improvements to many elements in my life because of it.
I get to share things confidentially.
I enjoy knowing I will be able to see her at the exact time every week.
She creates a safe arena for me to work through things.
I get to deal with trauma away from the surroundings I eat, work and sleep.
Which is better for you?
Looks at changing the way you think and behave, using practical methods to improve your mental health and well being. Focused on current problems, rather than reflecting on the past.
Works by bringing the unconscious mind into the conscious. Sessions are spent unraveling and understanding these feelings in order to gain understand of them.
*In order to not overwhelm people, I have discussed the two main types. But there are certainly other great ones to explore.
Sources: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk and https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/cognitive-behavioural-therapy-cbt/overview/
How to access
Your GP will be able to assist with this. Note that different areas of the country have different methods.
Pros: it’s free, your GP may be able to help you with other things that would compliment your counselling.
Cons: long waiting lists, you have less choice in picking a counsellor that is right for you, the actual counselling rooms tend not to be that comforting, less flexibility when it comes to times, may only be able to access for a limited number of weeks.
The best way to find a private counsellor is using https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk
Pros: you get to shop around and find a counsellor perfect for you, flexibility when it comes to times, usually will work in a nice space, can access for as long as you want.
Cons: expensive (although some will do reduced sliding scale rates), with so much to choose, can feel overwhelming.
Some places of work may have in house counsellors or be able to assist in finding and funding one.
Pros: shouldn’t have to pay or may just pay excess if health insurance, can be in the office which helps with schedules
Cons: you have to disclose to your work place that you want to see a counsellor, everyone in your office is seeing the same counsellor (if in house).
Many universities offer counselling services to students. Speak to your personal tutor or student services.
Pros: on campus a lot of the time, free, understands the specifics of students
Cons: you may see fellow students in the waiting room, waiting lists, limited time you can see them for.
How to pick which counsellor is right for you:
Do I like the style of counselling they specialise in (CBT, psychodynamic, etc)?
Do they understand my specific experience when it comes race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, age, class, etc?
Do I like the therapy room?
Does it work with my schedule?
Do I like the vibe they give off?
Do I feel comfortable enough to share with them?
Do I like the way they reply?